Thursday, November 22, 2012

Toni Vossen's Best Eyes (Female) Feb Entry on ExploreTalent.com

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Today in History for January 1980

9th - 63 beheaded in Mecca, Saudi Arabia

10th - Toni Vossen was born this day and Matt Roney, American baseball player birthday

13th - Head of narcotic brigade arrested for drug smuggling in Belgium

16th - Paul McCartney jailed in Tokyo for 10 days on marijuana possession

17th - NASA launches Fltsatcom-3

18th - Gold reaches $1,000 an oz

31st - Police storm occupied Spanish embassy in Guatemala City, killing 41

Today in History for 10th January 1980

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Historical Events

Events 1 - 2 of 2

- Jim Stewart, Bruin's rookie goalie allows 3 goals in his 1st 4 mins & a total of 5 in 1st period; he never again plays in NHL

- Last broadcast of "Rockford Files" on NBC

Famous Birthdays

Birthdays 1 - 2 of 2

- Matt Roney, American baseball player

- Sarah Shahi, American actress and model

Famous Deaths

Deaths 1 - 2 of 2

- Bo Rein, American college football coach (b. 1945)

- George Meany, labor leader, dies at 86

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Tuesday, November 20, 2012

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Sunday, November 11, 2012

Self Reliance

What is Self Reliance? How do You Gain Self Reliance?
A basic definition and explanation for the average person seeking self improvement.

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I sometimes read passages and ideas that seem original and not repetitive of anyone else’s ideas written or spoken previously. As the reader you or I sometimes hear an echo in those original ideas of our own sense of values. The only difference may be that someone else has thought to write it down and thus record those thoughts and values as their own. Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote of self reliance; “to believe in your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, -- that is genius”. For anyone to state their personal belief as though it is or could be the belief of other people transforms their personal truth into becoming a more universal truth.

Transversely in every work of genius we may recognize our own rejected thoughts. They come back to us with an oddly alienated recollection, we say to ourselves “I thought that once”. This teaches us to rely on our original impression or else tomorrow another person will say with authority precisely what we thought or felt today and we will be forced to humbly take our opinion from someone else. Although the world is full of great ideas nothing can satisfy us as much as our own thoughts and conclusions. No one but you knows what original thoughts you are capable of. There is power within you to be new and original and it can only be realised and executed by your own will. To half express yourself or to feel shameful of the great theology which only you can represent is, indeed, to fail yourself.

The Effort to Gain Self Reliance

You will be joyful when you have put your heart into your work and have done your best. You may have had this experience at some time in your life. But to give less than your best efforts will not give you that same feeling of satisfaction. You might then lose faith in yourself and in your abilities should what you set out to do or say be left incomplete. Trust yourself. Great men have always done so. Just as children are fearless in accepting their own ideas you can shine as brightly and freely in your original thoughts and embrace a youthful enthusiasm for your own exceptionality. We should make efforts to not allow intimidation or internal doubt to stifle our own good ideas or prevent us from sharing our inner brilliance with others.

Forms of opposition will always arise. People sometimes busy themselves with evaluating the weight of their opposition to an extent that they may doubt the strength their own truth. Even if your message is lost in language barriers it is no less valid. You may have the strength to deliver your platform to your own group but falter with a different audience. This is not the fault of your beliefs or convictions. Communication barriers can be overcome. As your own truth is repeated it will become clearer and more defined;, recognizable even to those who did not hear it the first time. By focusing on our inner srength and positive feedback we can find the inner strength to become and remain true to ourselves building our self reliance

One Voice in the Crowd

I have been referring to those voices one hears in the solitude of their own heart. Self reliance thus becomes the enemy of conformity. Society would have us each assimilate to the greater ideals and to lose our own self reliance to a greater concept. To follow your own voice fearlessly you may be labelled a nonconformist but nothing will ever be as sacred to you as the integrity of your own voice. To know your inner voice and not confuse it with any other voice is to develop and know a higher self. To live wholly from within is to come to know your truest self. Following what you know to be right regardless of what influences come from society or colleagues will ground you to your own sense of goodness. This is the development of your personal values.

Your Goodness Must have Some Edge To It

Society may present you with laws and guides; but if they are in conflict with you your own inner decency must have a greater voice. If in your mind there is no goodness in the publications of others do not bend for the sake of acceptance. Stand firm to what you feel is in the right. Be open to discussion and yet as clear as possible in your own communications. If a cause or idea is constructed out of fear or hatred and you recognize it to be that way and not born from goodness you should neither let it taint your own good virtue or allow it to silence your goodness with fear or hatred.

The greater task will be to recognize what is of concern to you. There are always going to be those who feel they know your duty better than you know it yourself. You will feel your own inner strength when you can stand independent in your own thoughts in the midst of the crowd. Do not expect to be understood by all and do not think that those who understand you today will understand tomorrow or that those who do not understand today will not understand tomorrow. Everyone has their own voice and their own experiences. Self reliance involves trusting in your own voice and your own virtue even in opposition by one or by many.

The Ones Without Self

Men may become meek and apologetic who lose themselves to the crowd. You will not know happiness and inner strength if you surrender those things to the crowd and lose your own individuality. Should you adopt the view of the greater voice without also firmly having a voice of your own you may easily be drawn into the mentality of the mob. When the mob voice is heard within a person louder than their own inner voice the whole world will appear to be in conspiracy for lack of individuality. To be in the crowd yet build your inner voice and your inner strength as an individual who recognizes right-mindedness you will not be devalued in your time.

Your inner voice, your virtues, and your self reliance are things that grow within you. It is up to each individual to nurture them within their own experience and protect them from corruption and negativity. They are yours alone not to be diluted in the press of society. Be yourself, speak your truth, and trust yourself and self reliance will become and remain a great part of who you are. This is needed is to recognize the strength that lives within you and keep it firmly there by your own goodness and your truest voice. By this practice you will find your inner self and develope reliance in your own worth.

Love an Addiction, which category are you in?

Love and Addiction: The Love Addicted Relationships

Many people are surprised to learn that love and addiction can actually coexist. Learn how love addicts and avoidants form addictive relationships.

Addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance, behavior, or activity to reach euphoric states despite negative consequences (harmful consequences to one's individual health, mental state or social life) often accompanied by physical or psychological dependence, withdrawal syndrome and tolerance.

All addictions can easily be seen as toxic love relationships.

The alcoholic is in a relationship with alcohol; the drug addict is in a relationship with the drug. The addict is in the so-called love relationship in which the object (drug, alcohol, gambling, sex, relationship/love, etc.) of addiction becomes the focus of a person’s life. In essence, it becomes their higher power. Love addiction is no different.

Love Addiction

It’s easy to understand how love addiction is a toxic relationship. It fits well.

Love addiction is a process addiction. That is, it is behavioral. Like many addictions that are well known such as alcohol or drugs, the addiction to love is not an addiction of ingesting something to get high, but an addiction to compulsive thoughts/behaviors in an attempt to feel alive, valuable, and worthy.

Obsession and high intensity created in addictive relationships is falsely perceived as real "love." However, the reality is there is no love in love addiction. Real healthy love is never addictive and addiction is not love. "Addiction" and "Healthy/Mature love" are polar opposites of each other.

"Love" in love-addicted relationships often feels very real to addictive lovers (commonly known as love addicts)—it is the delusion or fantasy of love. Because of its obsessive and dependent nature, the relationship is immature and epitomizes s a pseudo-love relationship.

At its core, addictive love is an intimacy disorder where love addicts strongly desire and yearn for close connection and intimacy, but run from it at the same time.

Healthy Love

Love is having a feeling of comfort/warmth in one's heart for someone and knowing he/she is precious and valuable despite his/her faults (also true for love for self). Giving respect to one's partner is the minimum of love. Love is nonjudgmental. Love is absent of relying on the other person to fulfill deep internal emotional needs.

Couples who love in healthy love relationships allow each other room for growth; there is a desire for the other to grow; there is compromise, negotiation. They accept and embrace each other's individuality; and there is trust and respect present.

In healthy loving relationships, emotional intimacy is present. Healthy emotional intimacy is crucial for healthy and mature love to exist. Intimacy is a core component of healthy relationships, and is central to trust, security and feelings of safety and well-being.

The Love Addict

A love addict is not addicted to love, he is not addicted to his partner—he is addicted to his/her fantasy of whom he/she thinks his partner is or who he/she wants his partner to be.

The fantasy created in his/her mind triggers a rush of powerful “feel good” brain chemicals such as dopamine, PEA, nor-epinephrine, and serotonin … all common natural key players in the process of falling in love and sexual desires.

Love addicts experience "love relationships" involving obsession, an intense desire for reciprocation and union, emotional abandonment (real or perceived), emotional highs and lows, and excessive infatuation. Everything in their life is put on hold in service to the needs and wants of their lover.

They confuse intensity and obsession with love. They unconsciously objectify their partner. They are obsessed with getting a sexual, romantic, or relationship "fix" rather than truly connecting and relating to a real human being.

Love addicts tend to draw emotionally unavailable avoidant individuals—these two types never cease to find one another. Love addicts and avoidants seem to have radar detectors where they inevitably will be drawn to each other .

The Avoidant

The Avoidant partner is not avoidant to the love addict (as love addicts like to see it); they are avoidant of intimacy, genuine closeness and being truly known. The Avoidant is compulsively counter-dependent—emotionally unavailable, disconnected; they fear being engulfed/drowned/smothered by their love addict partner.

For the Love Addict partner, Avoidants display a thrill, charm, false power, and act out seduction maneuvers—behaviors which are often a cover up to hide themselves in order to draw their partner in.

They enter relationships with rigid walls where they will let nothing or no one in, which makes healthy relationships impossible. Behind their emotional walls hides low self-esteem and the feeling that if they become truly known (display emotional intimacy) no one would ever love, accept, and value who they are.

They are attracted to needy, dependent, and vulnerable people—the love addict. People who think for themselves, have healthy emotional boundaries, solve their own problems, and care adequately for themselves are not interesting to Avoidants.

Avoidants are also dependent, yet their dependency comes from getting “high” from the ongoing admiration (being put on a pedestal) their love addict partner gives to them, which gives them a sense of power and control.

The Love Addict and Avoidant are each as emotionally unhealthy as the other, as they are impaired in their ability to bond securely as adults. Moreover, because of their deep-rooted characteristics, no matter how clever, how smart, how physically attractive or successful, they always feel incomplete.